Welcome to Chapter 3 blog to the 'The Five Love Languages: Single's Edition'. Wow. It seems to really believe in how you treat your family as where it all starts. Something to keep in mind.
1) To what degree did you receive words of affirmation from your parents?
About 50% of the time I needed it. Sometimes they would be encouraging and helpful. But sometimes I felt when I needed a positive word, I got advice I didn't ask for. I know that there way of showing they care, but I would gladly trade that advice for a positive word or two. So instead of feeling better, I felt as if I had another demand of me or another thing to think and worry about.
2) Do you find it easy or difficult to speak words of affirmation to your parents? Why?
I sometimes find it easy, and other times hard. Sometimes its hard cause I get frustrated with the advice and the questions. I feel like they don't trust me. Sometimes it's easy. I guess those are the times where I do it without feeling hurt or frustrated.
3) If you find it difficult, is it time for you to take the initiative to to speak those words to your parents?
Yes. I gueiss it would. Soon it will be harder to get in touch with them so if I don't start now, I may never get the chance. Plus, it might be the only love language will be able to do, considering we will communicate with video chat. On a personal lever, I find that this is one of my primary languages, so if I can convince my parents to speak this language, then I think I might be able to see their languages. Sometimes I'm just so tired that I just ignore chances to let them show love.
4) How freely express words of affirmation in other relationships?
I try to do it as frequently as I can, especially now cause I realize it's an important language to me. I guess I might try a little bit too hard at it, as it's a natural love languages. I like hearing it though. In a short time I started using it more, I discoverd how much I long for these words myself. I like how it's becoming more natural.
5) Is there a relationship you would like to enhance? Do you think speaking words of affirmation would be meaningful to that person?
Yes. A few actually. I don't know if words of affirmation. Some seem to not have changed, while others have gotten worse (clearly words of affirmation isn't a primary love language). I guess I'm still learning this language and them as well. Others have enhanced a little. I think everyoen likes hearing these words and I never realized how my words could hurt someone until seeing these books. At the very least I feel more comfortable saying these words. And when I would miss those words, or just forget they said those words, I remember them now and it's really neat to see how many words of affirmation I do receive. I hope if I keep trying I will continue to get better at it and get better relationship out of it too.
That's it. Stay tuned for Chapter 4.
BJB
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