Hi y'all
As promised, here are the questions from the wonderful book I'm reading "The Five Love Languages: Singles Edition". Please leave any comments or look to the left for my previous blog about Chapter 1.
1) Which Of your relationships do you consider to be healthy?
My relationship with my two best friends is healthy. We seem to have the same love languages. One of my best friend and I have a healthy relationship, as I try my best to speak his love language, acts of services. My best friend's wife and I seem to have a healthy relationship as well. Those three really stick out in my head, maybe cause I worked the hardest on them.
2) Which of your relationships would you like to see improved?
My parents and brother and sister. I give them love and they give me love but I don't think we know each others love languages. So sometimes, we miss out on that feeling of being loved. Also my new coworkers. Because I don't know what love language they speak, sometimes they feel distant from me and sometimes I feel distant from them. This effects how we interact on the job and adds extra stress and frustration.
3) How would you describe your relationship with your mother? Your father?
My mom and I have a good relationship. but I feel sometimes she can be a bit critical and/or advice heavy. Sometimes I wonder if she even listens to me. My dad and I have an okay relationship. We have good and bad history. At times I have to remind myself all the good he has done for me and my family.
4) In dating relationships, how many times have you experienced Stage 1: Passionate love?
No. At least not together with the girl I'm dating. I always seem ready to jump into a relationship that looking back, maybe I got a little pushy and maybe didn't act truly out of love.
5) Were you able to make the transition to Stage 2: Covenant Love? Why or why not?
No and I think it's because I don't get to stage one. I like a girl but I almost always fall hard for her. I try too hard I guess, never fully acting with love and respect. And then sometimes I get so scared of falling so hard that I resist the idea of love, both passionate and covenant.
6) Are you willing to invest time in learning to speak the five love languages?
Yes. I truly believe if I can learn to speak the love language of my friends and family and coworkers, I can really make a difference in their lives, and my own. I've always felt good at making others happy and making others' lives easier. I truly believe learning to speak these languages might open the door to that. Maybe by learning these love languages, I can love myself more too.
Anyways, stay tune for Chapter 3.
Thanks
BJB
You know, I wrote a reply to this a month or so ago and lost the reply. I'll give it another try and check out the next one too.
ReplyDelete1. Glad to hear about the relationships. As for myself, I think all of them are good, but the ones that have lost touch with me are the ones I regret. It's hard to keep in touch with so many people that I have met and been affected by. I wish I had more time to meet up with people face to face because Facebook is NOT a healthy way to keep a relationship. I do feel this method of keeping tabs on you is a healthy way to keep up. Hope you feel the same.
2. Guess I answered this in the last one. I guess I'll elaborate on the healthy then. While I consider all of my relationships to be healthy, I think my closest friends, both here in Japan and back home, are good. Keeping in touch every now and then is barely sufficient but I do what I can to make time to meet up with all of you guys. The first priority is with my girl, but that's a no brainer. Next is family and then close friends. You are part of that group, but that'll have to wait till we meet up in the same area of the world.
3. I got a good relationship with my parents. I miss them and they miss me. It is, as I said, hard to keep in touch but we do keep in touch a lot more than with you or the big R-man. I do try to meet up with them when they are in my area of town, but money and time are a big problem.
4. Well, in my limited experience, each and every time. Wouldn't mind more, but why ruin a good thing. :P
5. In terms of a ring on the finger, not yet. In terms of one that developed that way, I think so. I'm living with her, we have a dog together, all that is missing is a formal ceremony.
6. No. While I think the 5 love languages are interesting, I don't see myself investing in it. I do see myself respecting the concept and ideas. There are too many people to love and being able to speak it perfectly, in my case, would be impossible. Let me know if it seriously affects your life for the better and then I'll reconsider it.
Off to Chapter 3 now.